Looking at it differently
Oh boy, what a fun couple of days it has been! Finally good to have enough peace of mind to pen some thoughts down.
I stepped out of the office yesterday for a few brief moments for a tea break along with two colleagues of mine. One is a particularly fit and strong chap, while the other is on the exact opposite end of the fitness spectrum. I am lean and thin, but certainly not physically intimidating in appearance. As I made fun of the fit and strong chap, he jovially twisted my arm and threatened to punch me in the shoulder. Having trained in self defense, this was not an uncommon situation for me. But something in me did not permit the application of the lessons. I continued to make fun of him and received the punch. Today I have a blue discoloration at the point of impact. This is not an unknown problem for me. Perhaps it is not a problem. Maybe, restraint comes just as naturally to humans as does the propensity towards violence.
In recent times the wide coverage acts of unspeakable horror committed by those have made us question whether the concept of civilization has succeeded or not? In the result, we are constantly eyeing each other with suspicion and paranoia. We are more conscious of all that is wrong, and less aware of all that is right. Yet the basic fact remains that restraint and discretion are natural instincts not just an imposed superego. It is as much a reality as is all the horrors that men commit all the time. It is a percentage of the population that commit crimes and inflict violence and not the population itself.
A neighbour of mine once dismissed my love for Krav Maga. He said that Krav Maga is good for self confidence, fitness and infusing courage, but nothing can beat the good old fashioned positive energy. He opined that if we harness and project positive energy, we will attract the right people, people who will vindicate the restraint we exercise as civilized human beings. Yet fate may impose unholy events on us notwithstanding this, but with this adherence to positive energy, life is at least good as long as we don’t cross paths with fate in a bad way.
I cannot fully subscribe to my neighbour’s theory. I am not so brave as to trust the cosmos to take care of me. But I do believe in the good of humanity. Yes, I have seen child molesters, abusive husbands and psychopaths more regularly than what one can imagine. I am also an officer of the court, which means I am constantly trying to catch an overburdened and under-equipped system from falling and the challenges are complex in this exercise. But I have also seen people who have dedicated their lives to a cause higher than all of us and do so willingly. I would rather feel happy looking at the good guys than disgusted looking at the bad ones. In this brand of thought, I feel empowered!
So my advise, don’t let the bad all around you suck you in. Look at it as it is but don’t let it bias about what the world is. The world after all is a concoction of sugar, spice and everything nice along with bitterness. To be conscious of it all, yet only savour what is right is the best one can do!